Friday, April 17, 2009


I loved our little chat on Monday about facebook and relationships via the interwebs. I'm a little more than embarrassed to admit that I am no stranger to online dating. I first started when I was 18 because I only had 1 college class, still lived at home, and worked at a place with few opportunities to meet people. I haven't done it in a very long time.

I think the biggest lesson I learned through it all that people are liars. Most people who tend to build online relationships do not tell the truth about themselves somehow thinking the person on the other end wont ever find out.

Of course there will always be success stories, but I know because of the experiences I've had I will do the best I can to monitor my children and teach them to be literate in all things social media. As awesome as things have worked out for me in meeting someone randomly online (we didn't meet through any online dating site or anything)it's important to be cautious of all the creepers out there.

Saturday, April 11, 2009

Blogging equals Love

The most interesting part of this week for me was Vegor's presentation on Web 2.0. Growing up I never ever thought I was be so involved in all things social media as I now am. Although I've been slacking a little on this blog, I do love it. I find it therapeutic in some ways just to write my thoughts and opinions and have responses, good or bad.

I know there has been some argument as far as globalization and what it's doing us. What I mean is the fear that we are losing human interaction to the point where we won't talk to each other anymore. Although it is a valid point, I think quite the opposite. I think more incredibly valuable relationships are being formed thanks to all things Twitter, Blog, Facebook, etc.

And maybe I'm a little bit bias being that I met my favorite boyfriend in the world through blogging...and ironically enough this assignment (to blog) pushed us towards meeting. So....I'm all for the Web 2.0 experience :)

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Big, small, short, tall, black, white, etc.

I can't believe I've been really dropping the ball on this blog lately. Life is so busy for me as I'm sure it is for all of you!

Well, the highlight for me this week in our classes was the presentation on Friday of how different cultures view beauty. To be honest, I really think a presentation like that would do wonderful things for girls in high school to show them that beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there are so many definitions of beauty! With so many girls struggling with eating disorders and being consumed by their cosmetic appearance, it's nice to see that there is a place in the world for everyone.

I was sad to see that different cultures base the worth of the women by their looks alone. It makes me even more sad to know that our own society does that as well. I hope that we are really paying attention and taking the things we are learning in our class to heart and use them to educate people because I really think with our new found knowledge we can make small, but substantial difference in our world and society.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Google It

So in talking this week about corporations and what we are being shown versus not being shown, I think we have made great strides in underground music and art thanks to the Internet.

I've been able to find some really great bands thanks to Myspace music and sites like Pandora radio. I do realize that most of these things will never become main stream, but I think when you get down to the bottom of the music food chain you can find people who are making music because they love it, and not for the money. Of course I'm sure they would prefer not to be broke- but I genuinely believe they do it for the love of the art and expression and not necessarily for aspirations of having a billion tweens sell out your concerts while you gyrate in your pasties (Britney).

If people really want to get away from the main stream pop cotton candy sugar coated music (which I must confess I do love) just do a little research online. The beauty of a non-censored Internet is epitomized in undiscovered talent.

Friday, March 13, 2009

I could really use a Starburst....

I know that we can all talk about how much we hate the big bad marketers and advertisers, but in some ways I think what they do is admirable. Their innovation in getting consumers to look their way is nothing short of amazing.

Pretend we aren't treated as lab rats in a brainwashing world and think about how fun it would be to control the masses and tell them how important it is to have your product and why. Not to mention make sweet awesome commercials that make people think, "Wow, I really do need that snuggie. Having a snuggie will complete my entire existence and my life will be worth living."

I think as long as we know that the sugar coated message behind the spoon fed adverts given to us on a day to day basis are simply ploys for us to buy and buy and buy, we can sit back and just laugh about the best commercial ever:

Thursday, March 5, 2009

If I were black...

I remember having so many thoughts and responses to the discussion in class yesterday regarding race and representation. Ultimately I think it boils down to feeling like some of us are missing the point of having these discussions and doing the reading in the first place.

I don't think we are reading these books to develop defenses and justify the way things are. I don't think we are reading them to become bitter towards the ideals and thoughts of the authors. I think the whole point is just to step outside of our own little box and try to gain some insight into the minds of these people. Not to necessarily agree with them, but to wonder how we would have dealt with situations of race if we were black, or what our views would be towards feminism had we grown up in the baby boomer generation.

We just need to be a little more open minded! I'm as conservative politically and morally as they come, but that doesn't mean I can't be subjected to diversity in all aspects or that it demeans my current value system in any way. We can learn to appreciate the views and opinions of others. We absolutely do not have to agree with them, but if we can learn to understand why they are the way they are, we can begin to work towards a more progressive outcome with full knowledge. This really is the only way to get anything accomplished successfully. I wish more people would understand that- not just our classmates :)

I'm not saying it's easy- I just think we should chill out a little and try to look through different eyes.

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

If you touch me, I'll punch you in the face.

Talking in class today and watching the Hip Hop video Monday- the ultimate feeling I have is complete amazement- and not the good kind. I'm the kind of person that will stand up for what I believe in and won't apologize for it. I've been at parties or dances where guys just felt like they could come up and start grinding on me and I'd turn around and yell at them (probably not very lady like, but seriously...get away!)

So when I was watching those women be completely nonchalant about the way these men were objectifying them, it just blew my mind. Maybe I take things too personally, but when I hear guys talk about "Utah County" girls, I don't shrug it off. I tell them exactly the kind of person I am and try to get them to see that maybe their view is a little narrow minded. I don't think it's fair to judge me based on an opinion of someone else. I wish the women in that video felt the same.

I think it does come back to being educated. Maybe they truly think the music videos with naked chicks running around with dudes throwing money at them is not in any way harming them. But it does. It absolutely does. Not only does it stereotype them, but it also teaches men that women are only there for one reason and they should expect that of women.

It's a lot to think about. I hope somehow, even though it's an enormous task, we can in someway begin to help people become more media literate.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Um, maybe you shouldn't say that?

So this week we've talked a lot about race and our society.

The thing that always comes into my mind when this subject comes up is my Dad's Father.

I don't really know why, but he is incredibly racist and has never hid it. I'm sure when I was younger I didn't really notice or understand, but as I've gotten older it's been hard for me to sit and listen to him sometimes. Every time I heard him say the "N" word I can't help but cringe. I understand it's somewhat of a generational thing, but I'm a little white girl from Provo Utah and it still hurts me to hear him say it. I credit my parents for teaching me that having those feelings and saying those things is completely unacceptable.

I've also wondered why the black community feels it is OK to use that word amongst themselves. I would want my friends calling me a bitch over and over because I think it's demeaning and I think it almost has the same connotation to me as the "N" word has to black people. Maybe not, I don't know. Either way, I don't really this it's OK to do that. But then again, I'm not black so I can't exactly speak for any black person. Which is fine. Just a lot to think about I guess.

Friday, February 13, 2009

Couldn't pay me to do it again!

So in talking about Advertising this week, my mind kept wandering back to my high school days. We have been talking so much about body image, and back then thoughts about my weight literally consumed every day of my life. Today, I weigh about 112 lbs and I'm 5'1. The heaviest I have ever been was in high school my sophomore year at 136 lbs, and was around 4'11 until I was about 17 (the fact that I remember that so distinctly should tell you something). It may not sound like much to you, but on a smaller frame that weight had less places to go.

Every day I woke up wishing I were someone else because I didn't want to be "fat." The weird thing is, I was active. I was a competitive ballroom dancer since I was 9 and was even a cheerleader. Although, I think that made things worse for me. All I saw around me were these little tiny girls getting thrown in the air, and chicks in these fabulous dresses with even more fabulous frames to display them. I felt so out of place and thought, "If only I were skinny like them I could be happy."

It has just made me think that although all the friends I had had these "perfect" bodies, there were influences from the media dismorphing my body image as well. I remember watching The Real World even back then and thinking I could never be on that show because they only cast girls who looked hot in bikinis. I looked disgusting in one. I would never get boys to like me because I didn't look like my sister who was tan, blond, 5'7, and 98 lbs with a C cup.

What I've realized since then is that not being them, not being this perfect stereotypical cheerleader, I had to rely on other things. I had to rely on being smart, making people laugh, being witty, and using my personality to get recognized as opposed to my boobs. It's made me a much better person than I ever would have been had I been than barbie girl.

I guess ultimately I want to teach my children that beauty is so ambiguous. YOU are PERFECT EXACTLY the way you are. It doesn't matter what size your jeans are.... you still matter. You still can make a difference and you can be important even if the scale tips a little bit. It is so hard in our society to believe that because we are getting sent SO many messages which most of us will never live up to. But, that doesn't mean we should let it get the best of us. All we can do is be a part of the change.

This is my Junior year. I'm the one on the front left. I have tiny legs, but there is a reason I'm bending over. I'm also wearing a body slimmer underneath my uniform ( I don't think I've ever told anyone that!)

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Shaving cream anyone?

This week we have been talking a lot about feminism, burning bras, not wearing make-up etc. Before I get into it, it's not that I don't have respect for what women were trying to do by expressing themselves this way. I get that. But is it really THAT bad shaving your legs?

Personally, I'm cool with being able to wear make up, dress up and wear high heels, and shave my freakin legs. I don't think it's demeaning or sends a message that I'm trying to please some creepy old man, I just feel better about myself when I don't roll out of bed for the day and go!

It also seems like chicks who DO want to do these things (make up, heels, etc.) are seen as "conforming to the man." Whatev guys. If being into shopping and buying cute dresses makes me an evil man pleasing whore, then fine. At least I'm cute while doing it.


Thursday, January 29, 2009

Let's talk about Sex

This week we have been more focused on woman and sexuality in our society.

As I was reading in the Douglas book, I could find myself getting as little defensive to her thoughts and sediments. I felt like not only was she angry at the media with regards to her sexual ideals, but that if you were a woman who DID want to wait until marriage to have sex, you were jaded and weren't making the decision for yourself. I can see after our discussion that maybe her intentions were just to show the confusion and frustration for many women as the media portrayed sex in contrasting lights.

Ultimately, this made me think about my own values and ideals on sex. I am a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, and my religion teaches that premarital sex is in violation of sacred Gospel principles. However, that does not mean that sex in itself is a horrible and sinful thing.

I've noticed that for my generation, sex is more of an open subject with regards to the LDS faith. I have talked about it with my friends and have had leaders and teachers discuss it in classes. I know that I will enjoy sex with my future spouse. I would consider myself a very sexual person, but I have chosen to wait and have those experiences until I am entered into a bond of marriage. I know that sex is for procreation, but I also believe it is an expression of love between two people and is meant to be enjoyable. Otherwise, why would we do it?! For those reasons, I do consider it sacred and will hold to that belief.

That choice I've made is my own, and I don't feel it makes me a "bad" or "good" girl. I've made mistakes and stupid decisions that would label me as bad, and done great things that some might label me as good. I don't think that one particular area of my life, such as sex, can define who I am. I think these are choices every person needs to make after careful consideration of the consequences to their actions.

P.S. I would marry this guy tomorrow if I could! Yummy....

Thursday, January 22, 2009

I'm a chick...and I'm down with that!

In reading the first chapter of the Douglas book I noticed myself getting increasingly anxious. It was frustrating to read as well as a little bit eye opening. My mind shifted to thinking about women and young girls in other countries, wondering if they had the same self esteem issues as American women always seem to posses (being that in they most likely did not share the same media influences). It really is all about self esteem you know. The only reason we sometimes want to bring down others is to feel good about ourselves. I do think this is something we have learned through the media and our environment. HOWEVER, I don't think that should be an excuse.

I have always been someone that does what I want. I hate people telling me what to do; I do things because I feel it's what is best for me. I don't want to be tied down to what the media or society tells me what I am. I honestly think it's sort of a cop out. Having worked in the corporate world for a couple years, there were times when I was treated stereotypically. That doesn't mean that I responded stereotypically. No matter who we are or how people treat us, we have a choice. We have a choice to become invaluable. If my boss can't afford to lose me because of the work I produce, he won't fire me because I'm a women. I believe this goes for any race or sex. We are people. People are assets.

Of course there will always be people who are close minded and accept stereotypes as realities. But if we don't succumb to that and continue to work and provide to the best of our abilities, eventually even their mind can be opened. It takes time, it's not easy. But that doesn't mean it isn't possible. I think Douglas has a bitter taste in her mouth and seems to be playing the blame game right now. I just won't play with her.

On another interesting note, check this chick out:

She is another Real World cast member this season...and I bet you wouldn't have guessed that she is Transgendered. Meaning, she was born a dude. I seriously cannot even seem to grasp this concept yet, it is completely out of my realm of understanding why anyone would do this, but I think maybe as we study more about gender vs. sex I can understand what the heck is going on with her. Maybe.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

Learned my Lesson

I really wanted to post about something I care about. Nothing seemed to click for me this week in all our discussions about stereotypes and even listening to the civil rights panel, I just couldn't quite connect with my inner careness level (I cared, just not enough to blog).

So last night, around 11 I'm watching the new season of The Real World. I love love TV, totally not ashamed mind you, but The Real World has never been on my list of must-sees. However, this season they have this LDS guy named Chet. So I'm like, hey I'm LDS, I'm interested in seeing how this guy represents my "culture".

So as I'm watching the show, all I can think about is what a tool he is. Seriously, I don't think I would ever choose to be friends with him. He doesn't seem to have any tact and half the time sounds like he will be the first one back (to douchebagastan).

And then it hit me. I was totally stereotyping what he would be like. I assumed he would be this clean cut missionary esq down to earth dude. In all honesty, I hoped he would be the "stereotypical" non crazy respectful Mormon guy, but instead...we got Chet. CLEARLY, I was way off base. Totally my bad for assuming anything!

Personally, I hope I never run into anyone that asks if I'm LDS and then stereotypes me as Chet's counterpart. Hopefully in realizing I've made a mistake in stereotyping him, I won't get the icky Karma that will send Chet hating people my way. Cheers to realizing stereotypes are NOT right, and here's to hoping Chet doesn't continue being an idiot.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009



So here is my new blog dedicated to thoughts and inspirations derived my from Communications 2010 class. I hope this blog to be of benefit to my ever increasing drive for knowledge and learning. I welcome any and all opinions and comments with exception to those who resist class and taste. Lets keep it classy people!

For a little taste of what I plan to write, check this out: Can you believe it?! Honestly, I can. Giving every other industry in America a free handout, why not adult entertainment?

Ugh. I have NEVER agreed with any bail out plan, and I certainly will not add my name to any list of supporters for this one. By shoving loads of money to failing companies we send the message that mistakes are acceptable. Drove your company into bankruptcy? No problem, the federal government will get out its tax payer check book and all of your problems will be solved.

Take some responsibility people!!! Clear out all greedy dirty evil socialist company owners and lets get some fresh blood in there! People with a sense of direction and innovative ideas are what this country needs-Not a government promoted sex handout.